Question:
Am I wrong for telling my child their is no Santa Clause???
Joshua C
2006-09-22 22:30:27 UTC
I have a bad habit of telling kids that Santa Clause was killed by a 747. When parents hear me tell this to children, they get REAL upset and say I shouldn't lie about that. I think to myself, Boy that is the pot calling the kettle black because isn't it a lie to tell kids that Santa Clause is real???
48 answers:
Holly
2006-09-24 17:56:58 UTC
Let them enjoy it. And even if you do decide not to ALLOW your children the JOY of believing in something fantastical -- what makes you think you have the right to try to steal that from other children? If I were someone's parent, I'd smack you in the face with my purse (once my child was safely looking the other way at a toy or something). You sound like quite the Scroogy Ol Grinch!!



I do believe it's silly not to let your child be a CHILD. But that's your choice, however poor it may be. But yes, you ARE WRONG for telling OTHER CHILDREN who are not yours the same thing... or something even more cruel, that he was killed in an accident. What the ... is wrong with you??



P.S. The above person is correct. Santa Claus was actually derived from a person who did exist. His name was Saint Nicholas. (My little brother is named after him...)
GrnApl
2006-09-25 11:23:29 UTC
Well I don't really agree with the violent death of Santa. I do agree a 100% about lying to kids about Santa. Tell them that it is a fictitious character they will accept it the same way they accept that Scooby-doo isn't a real dog that talks etc...



Let them color the santas, elves, etc...

Let them watch the holdiay shows.



Let them know that they are loved and that you are the one who is buying the gifts and then they will learn appreciation.



Once my son saw a child sitting on a "Santa" in the store and he said, "mommy! Why are they sitting on a stranger's lap?".



Parents lying to their children breaks their trust and teaches them its okay to lie if it makes the other person feel good. It is the reason so many become so upset when they hear the truth from other children. They don't want to doubt what the people they trust most have told them. It ultimately undermines the parents authority. What happens when the kid doesn't get the unrealistic and far to expensive gift ...He will think he wasn't worthy and that he wasn't good enough. On Christmas I want my child to know that he is special and deserving and alot of love an thought went into the gift.
anonymous
2006-09-22 23:22:40 UTC
When you're a child there's so much magic in the world. Do you really want to take that away from kids? Look at the state of our adult world; really messy.



When Christmas comes around I think back to my Santa Clause times and I still feel some of the magic, which I share with my own and other kids. Didn't you believe in Santa when you were a child? Or have you forgot? Try to remember!



Coincidentally, I 'fessed-up to my 13 year old daughter 2 days ago. Of course she knew, but a little part of her still wanted to believe. With tears in our eyes we hugged, declared our grief and agreed to keep it going 1 more year for her younger sister. (We're very serious about Christmas and our Santa Clause!)



My daughter doesn't think I was wrong to have her believe in Santa, just like I didn't think my mom was wrong for letting me have that 'Christmas Magic'.



As for Santa Clause being killed by a 747, are you kidding? That could never happen with a nose like Rudolph's!
trueexposure
2006-09-26 09:15:23 UTC
May I suggest not lying to them about the 747 and do a real search to see if he is real or fictitious character and then come up with an answer so you won't be lying and as for that 60 year dude Santa Claus is not real so it isn't the same as telling kids Jesus exist or don't exist unless of course Santa Nick is your God which also a nickname for the devil:Scratch, Patch, and Nick

You are old enough to know that one huh bub
the_kid21186
2006-09-23 17:03:42 UTC
Instead of telling your children that Santa Clause was killed by a 747. You should just say that you are Santa Claue because it is the truth.
butterfly_261
2006-09-23 21:03:14 UTC
To tell all of you the truth, if you actually look into history or watch TV at Christmas time you would find out there yes there is a Santa Clause. Hundreds of years ago, there was a man named Nicholas, he was a very good man, he was rich and yet gave his money to those who needed it more, he was a Catholic man. In Holland they call him Sinter Klause, and when they made it to America, St. Nick became Santa Clause. He did exist and if there are good people out there who still give from their hearts, then YES there is a Santa Clause...
Justa_Honay_Guy
2006-09-22 22:44:44 UTC
Do what I did when I broke the news to my ex's 3 daughters. Ages 3,5 and 7. I got a stuffed Santa, a few stuffed deer, some busted up boards, some rope, a bunch of empty beer cans and a whiskey bottle. I hung Santa with the whiskey bottle wired to his hand, by his feet from the tree in the front yard, along with 2 of the deer, the other deer I left on the ground. I scattered the wood and the beer cans all around. Then draped the rope all over the entire scene.It was Christmas eve 1987. In the morning I woke the girls up, took them outside to view the scene and explained to them the hazards of drinking and driving. Santa was a bad man and paid the ultimate price for his evil ways. Not only did I not have to buy any presents but the girls learned a valuable lesson. Never drink and sled.
anonymous
2006-09-26 21:58:16 UTC
Yes, you are very wrong, and you know it. Sure Santa is a myth, but you don't make up another just to try and dispell the original one. And, death by a 747 is probably not the most politically correct excuse you could come up with, post 9/11. As with any fairy tell, tell them that it's real if they "want" it to be real. Leave it up to their own imagination.
gracefully_saved
2006-09-22 22:41:33 UTC
We always told our kids that Santa was not real. We played into it a bit, but they knew the truth. I would rather them believe the gifts came from God (which they did) than from some imaginary man. I wanted to give God the credit where it was due. My kids are fine and still had fun and games with it. I just had to tell them not to tell other kids that because some kids parents want them to believe it.
Donald S
2006-09-23 02:36:37 UTC
Please let children enjoy believing while they are young. It does not harm them to experience the thrill and antisipation of Santa Clause coming on Christmas eve. They will find out soon enough and someday they will play Santa Clause with their children. To the person who doesn't want Santa Clause to have credit for they gifts they buy for their children. Are you buying them to get credit, or to please your child. They will get a thrill on Christmas morning when they find their gifts under the CHRISTMAS TREE. They really won't be thinking "gee Santa brought me gifts and Mom and Dad didn't". They will know the truth when they get older and will think they must have loved me to go to all that trouble to surprise me.



Merry Christmas from Santa
purrfectsandcastle
2006-09-23 21:33:04 UTC
sharing to your children there is no Santa is one thing. But telling kids he was killed by a 747 is plain out stupid and mean. Kids have to much to worry about today let them pretend and live the fantasy. They grow up to quick and when there in their teens you'll wish they still believed in SANTA
someone s
2006-09-22 22:36:43 UTC
I think that is just down right mean telling them that he got killed... I told both my kids there was no Santa about the time they started to school, as they knew Santa to be ... but what I told them that there is a spirit of Santa in all of us everyday, in the giving and doing for others who aren't as fortunate, and from school age on there is a tradition of taking a name of an unfortunate child from one of the trees in the local stores and we do our shopping for that kid before we do any for our own family... and little to my surprise in August, my daughter who is now 13 came up with the idea of us sponsoring a child in one of those underdeveloped countries and just sending all the money we would have spent to that cause this year.... so I think you could tell your children something a little something better than Santa got killed!
anonymous
2006-09-22 22:53:10 UTC
I've always done the same thing, only with a twist...I'd play the radio when children were present then put in a tape of me and my brother (like it was breaking news) . I was the reporter and my brother was an eyewitness to Santa being killed by a truck and that Christmas was canceled. It's great fun...feel free to try it this holiday season.
Gotta Love My GSD
2006-09-24 20:26:05 UTC
Santa Claus was an evolutionary creation, brought about by the fusion of two religious personages (St. Nicholas and Christkindlein, the Christ child) to become a fixed image which is now the paramount symbol of the secular Christmas celebration.



Sankt Nikolaus, who died on December 6th, 343.



Brief History:



Nicholas' parents died when he was just a teenager. His parents left him a lot of money which made him a rich young man. He went to live with his uncle who was a priest.



Nicholas heard about a man who had lost all his money.

This family was so poor they had nothing left to eat.

The night before the oldest daughter was to sold, she washed her stockings and put them in front of the fire to dry. Then all of them went to sleep—



In the morning the daughter saw a lump in her stocking. Reaching in, she found a small, heavy bag. It had gold inside! Enough to provide food for the family and money for her dowry. Oh, how happy they were!



The next morning, another bag with gold was found. Imagine!



Not knowing who was helping them the father stays awake in hopes of catching the person responsible. The father falls a sleep and wakes up in time to catch glimps of Nicholas in the home and exclaims: "Nicholas, it is you! Thank you for helping us—I hardly know what to say!" Nicholas said, "Please, do not thank me—thank God that your prayers have been answered. Do not tell others about me."



Nicholas continued helping people. He always tried to help secretly. He didn't want any attention or thanks. When there wasn't any food, he found wheat; so no one went hungry. He always helped people in trouble. .



The people loved Nicholas. After he died, they told stories of the good and kind things Nicholas had done. Sailors took these stories about Nicholas everywhere they went.



Some of the stories were about his special care for children—helping and protecting them when danger threatened. And so more and more people learned about good, kind Nicholas. They wanted to be like him. He is an example of how we should live. That is why he became a saint.



This is the story of the real Santa Claus, St. Nicholas. To this day people say that St. Nicholas, or Santa, is the special friend of children.



You should explain to your child that St. Nicholas was a kind and compassionate man who lived many, many years ago. From the stories passed down generation-to-generation, he became Urban Legend, much like Paul Bunion and his big Blue Ox Babe, Johnny Appleseed and many other folk legends.



In the early 1800's, we created a jolly ole fellow with a big red suit and black boots for illustration in a literary classic "The Night Before Christmas" and the legend grew from their. You may not approve of the commercialization of the legend of St. Nick, but you are lying to your child by saying that he was hit by 747.
anonymous
2006-09-23 10:40:51 UTC
When my kids were small, I didn't do the santa lie- I hate lies.I told them to be respectful of the way others celebrated the holiday and not tell little kids there wasn't a santa.



What I did tell my kids was we where celebrating Jesus' birthday. It was fun when they would say they wanted this or that for Christmas and I would teasingly remind them that it wasn't their birthday. When they asked why we give gifts, I would remind them that God so loved the world that He gave...



Mind you that it wasn't just their father and I giving gifts on Christmas morning. We would take each one of them out shopping for gifts for each other.



Garfield said, "It's not the giving, it's not the getting. It's the loving."



Who needs santa!
.LoveStoned.
2006-09-22 22:33:07 UTC
This is difficult. I understand why people say they don't want to lie to their kids, but Santa Clause is apart of what makes childhood fun. But in the end it's all up to the parents.
crazy_daisy
2006-09-24 08:28:22 UTC
hey hun....well i wouldn't go so far as to say Santa was killed lol but i don't see any thing wrong with letting them know he is a fairy tale figure....i told my little girl very early in life that some people like to believe in Santa but he's not real to save her the heart ache of having another kid tell her on down the road that he is a fake and having her cry over it...it doesn't seem to bother her either way now if he's real or not cause we still read Christmas stories about him and she realizes that although he isn't real he is still fun to read about...just like the Tooth fairy or Cinderella....love daisy
paperclip
2006-09-22 22:37:45 UTC
You're a parent? That poor child. You obviously don't spend enough time with him/her (not to mention you're obviously a moron.) Children identify with fantasy. That's why there is an entire genre of books, music, movies, etc., made for kids. If they were meant to think like adults, Disney wouldn't exist. If you choose to tell your child there is no Santa, that's your business. Telling them Santa was killed by a 747? That's just juvenile.
Galinka
2006-09-22 22:37:34 UTC
I agree with "Jess" its really up to the parents. Of course it sux when you have to tell your kids that Santa is fake. But I wouldn't trade those years of believing in Santa for anything. As a kid it just makes the world seem more interesting and mysterious and exiting.

Let the kids have their dreams
beachgirlkandy
2006-09-23 00:27:20 UTC
No. My mom never let me believe in Santa and I turned out fine. She didn't want me to be disappointed every year like she was. Her mom always had her write a letter to Santa telling him what she wanted, but every year she got nothing that she asked for because her family was poor. My mom still wonders why her mom didn't just tell her the truth and not get her hopes up every year?
lpaganus
2006-09-25 09:38:28 UTC
Wrong, very wrong. Let the kids find their own myth of Santa Claus. Don't instill fear of flying in the kids because they might never get on the plane that killed Santa.
anonymous
2006-09-23 02:11:22 UTC
well for one its fun,



and there really used to be a santa clause, or what ppl consider santa clause so it isn't a total lie



and the thing is if its not your kids u have no right, if it is your kids then tell them what u please but not other ppls kids, thats just wrong and u are looking for trouble doing that
bonitabertrell
2006-09-22 23:54:48 UTC
My son started crying one day. I asked him what was wrong. He said the kids at school told him there was no santa. I really thought he knew it me buying that stuff. He said I want to believe in Santa and I don't want them teasing me because I do. I told him you believe in santa as long as you want to it is absolutely okay. And those kids were assholes. So I guess I know why the kids did that to my son, because they have assholes for parents.
anonymous
2006-09-22 22:40:29 UTC
I agree, it is a lie to tell them he is real...when my children asked I told them straight out that he wasn't real, (gently of course)...I think the 747 story is a bit much for a child to take in...tell them by all means but soften it up a little.
anonymous
2006-09-23 00:21:55 UTC
Yes, you are wrong..

They will learn by themselves when they grow up....

Just tell him that even if he met with an accident by a 747, he actuallty got only injured and then went back to North Pole using the sledge and his reindeers. This is because other children saw SANTA CLASU last christmas in their hometown japan
MoonWoman
2006-09-22 22:39:30 UTC
It is okay for you to tell your child, but don't blow it for others.

Telling children Santa was killed is somewhat extreme.

Yes, that is a very bad habit you have. Stop it.

One lie plus another lie equals nothing but lies. How about telling the truth?
shay shay
2006-09-24 08:48:46 UTC
There is no Santa clause now but a long time ago there was named Santa Nicolis. so you should tell you kids this store one day.
♥LoisLane♥
2006-09-23 08:00:48 UTC
how can people say that there is no God?! . . it's because of God and the birth of His son, Jesus, that Christmas exists!!! . . . I think you should be straight up with your children . . . tell them that Santa Claus is not real . . but explain to them to significance of this day and what it really means . . . Christmas is not all about how many gifts you get or getting all of the things on your list . . it's about spending time with those you love . . .
Joseph, II
2006-09-22 22:44:51 UTC
Your last name wouldn't be "Grinch" by any chance- would it? It's hard enough being a kid nowadays- without an adult with an axe to grind- making life just alttle more miserable. Cut the world a break- & keep your "bad habits" to yourself. -Or YOU may be the one flying on a 747 one of these Christmas Eves...
anonymous
2006-09-22 22:36:38 UTC
The spirit of peace on Earth, good will towards men and giving is NOT REAL!



Santa exists. A newspaper said so, so it must be real.



Or are you just Natalie Wood's mother in "Miracle on 34th Street" the original.
RAW DIVA™
2006-09-22 22:35:35 UTC
Kids will find out anyway. Parents may tell them, and they disregard it, But if a friend tells them I think they believe the friend. So, basically, just tell them. It will hurt less if you dont even pretend their is a Santa Clause. There was one a long time age. Saint Nicholes. But he is dead, and it could be a good idea to tell children this story.
KrisSy
2006-09-26 04:51:34 UTC
you don't need to beat around the bush just tell them plain and simple that he is just a fictious person,it is better than to go around saying he was squashed by 747, it is really creepy... Plus some of the other parents would prefer to let their kids live in a lie... their choice
Bazinga
2006-09-23 09:18:04 UTC
The world as we know it is such a hard and cruel place, look ever day what goes on all over this planet. Let the children have their wonderful myths and enjoy in believing. For one day they will be all grown and reality sets in.
fatal_essence
2006-09-23 02:26:37 UTC
better you tell them, than the kids at school make fun of them when they are adamant that santa exists.
Fleur de Lis
2006-09-22 22:40:55 UTC
I told my friends kid that the bunny I had years ago was the Easter Bunny. They were over one day and wanted to play with him and I had to tell them that he had died, a few days later, he asked his mom who was going to come at Easter. I felt so bad.
trvs96
2006-09-22 22:39:03 UTC
Having kids believe in Santa can really boost their imagination. You wouldn't want to hinder that would you?
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2006-09-22 22:33:38 UTC
i am 60 yrs old and there definately is a santa clause so stop lying too those kids
getmycountryback
2006-09-22 23:20:49 UTC
HAHA that's come funny ****! But no I don't think you should tell them it was a 747, tell them it was an MH-53.....make it more fun ;*P
pink9364
2006-09-22 23:38:04 UTC
lets kids have a fun christmas and dont say anything
Hannah's Grandpa
2006-09-22 22:37:41 UTC
if you don't believe in Santa he won't come to your house
Josianne
2006-09-23 03:29:20 UTC
Its such a releif to know that there are other people out there whos dose't re-enforce such stupidity. You are not wrong at all!
anonymous
2006-09-22 22:32:40 UTC
no. i never believed in Santa. They just strait out told me "Santa is fake."
anonymous
2006-09-26 15:05:13 UTC
well u r right but thats kinda mean though
zippythewondermutt
2006-09-22 22:32:00 UTC
you're only reinforcing the lie
anonymous
2006-09-22 22:35:46 UTC
No, but be consistent.

Santa and God figures are equally imaginary. You can't tell your child one imaginary thing is not real, but another imaginary thing is real.



Actually, Santa is a nicer person than God. Tell him God does not exist, but let him enjoy Santa a little longer.
anonymous
2006-09-22 22:36:21 UTC
everybody has dreams,don't spoil it,
anonymous
2006-09-23 06:08:38 UTC
Thanks for spoiling my kids Christmas!
tomleah_06
2006-09-22 22:35:24 UTC
I don't think so but while you're at it you should also tell him there is no Jesus as well.


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