Is this time of year difficult for you ?

Question

With Christmas and Hannukah and other holidays coming up soon now, we often tend to think most folks are happy. Yet we must realize that all is not well with many folks, especially this time of year. I have dealt with a great deal this past five months, and it could be a real down time for me. But I have other family that depends on me to help them have a good Christmas, and so I am doing that very thing. I find that in doing for them, it helps my own sadness. Wanna share with us how you feel this year ?

Answer 1

I know much loss too Regina...I have a son with many problems and many other obstacles in my life (some days the pain is great in me)...which have spiritually wounded me deeply...the cross is so heavy at times sweet sis...but I do indeed press forward with the hope of Christ that my life will see normal joy again...I lean into Christ as my answer and you know He comes through for me....most always...I just throw myself into the arms of Christ and cry...he is there Regina for us all. Pour it out to him and let his anointing oil embrace you and enclose you! He loves us Regina, his mercy and tenderness is great! Presently I am in the process of making one of the toughest decisions I have ever faced. Fought and sought the Lord out on this one for years...and it is a life changing one! I pray the Lord gives me His grace and wisdom and opens the right door for me! So dear...let's hold eachother up!

Just thought I would come and answer this as I know you are hurtin' sis and I want to just hold ya for Christ...love ya too! You are going to go through the grief process, no doubt..sometimes it is just good to express grief period...I am here for you should you ever want to email me. God bless you and keep you in His loving tender arms for as long as it takes is my petition before the Lord! WE WILL ALWAYS HAVE THE LORD AND HIS HOLY SPIRIT WITH US.... so gracious and comforting! God bless you now and always!

Answer 2

I know what you mean..many times a good medicine for our sadness is helping others. with that not only do we distract ourselves from our own problems but we also bring joy and satisfaction to ourselves Knowing that we are helping and bringing happiness to others. I love christmas because im very family oriented and i just love being all together with my sisters and brothers cousins and just every one ETC. But this year is different for some reason am actually a little scared at times. Im facing an issue and a very very very hard decision. and at the end of the day i know when christmas day comes ama be the most miserable person in the world, i know i shouldn't but we really cant control our inner feelings and just thinking about it is making me cry...which shouldn't because is really going to be a great thing but at the same time is gonna change soooooo many things that i cant help but cry just thinking about it. Either way just because am going to be heart broken doesn't mean i have to make it rain on everyone parade...i know my daughter and family is expecting me to put on my game face and make this one of our best x-mases due to the fact that's our first in our new home and thas exactly what i tent to do. Help every one give many gifts out and make sure every one has a great time.

Answer 3

The whole month of December is hard for me because I have had so many family members and friends pass on that I hate to think about it. My best childhood friend (that I'd known since 1957 actually--when we

were 9 and 10 years old) passed away on Dec. 6 after suffering with a severe muscular disease (kind of like a muscular dystrophy but it was never given a name) that started after she fell. In no time at all afterwards, she was walking with a cane, then a walker, then had to use a wheelchair. Her hands just seemed to curl up against her chest, so she couldn't even feed herself. She couldn't speak at the end, and I just hated to see her go downhill so fast. At the time of her funeral, I was in need of knee replacements, so I couldn't stand very long (and there was standing room only at her services because over 600 people attended) and therefore didn't get to tell her good-bye. This was about 5 years ago.

My favorite great-uncle passed away on Dec. 15, in the early 1990's.

My grandmother passed away on New Year's Eve 1991, just 2 1/2 months after my grandfather died. Was like she just gave up on life because they'd been married for over 63 years.

Last but not least, by any means, on Dec. 29, 1998, I got a call from the brother of my best friend from college telling me she had died on the 22nd as an aftermath of a liver transplant operation (the surgery went fine, but she got excess fluid around the brain and didn't survive that. )

So, as you can tell, I don't look forward to December at all. The only "fun" I have is watching my favorite Christmas movie, the original 1947 version of "Miracle on 34th Street." I have both the color version and black/white on VHS tape and DVD. It was the first Christmas movie I ever watched on TV when it came on there, and I've watched it ever since, every year. You'd think I'd know the words to that little Dutch girl's song about " Sinterklaas " (Santa Claus) by now. =)

Answer 4

Sorry to hear about you having bad times. I let Christmas slip up on me this year because of my health being bad. Usually by this time, I have bought all the Christmas gifts for the little ones in our family. And sent out cards and letters to my friends, and family. But lately I have had trouble with being diabetic with going on insulin and having to go to the hospital for higher levels. It is more blessed to give than receive though and I have always had the thought in the back of my mind, that it isn't how much you spend at Christmas that counts. It is the thought that you have the feelings of love during Christmas and thought enough about someone else to send them even a card or letter to see how they are doing. I always love to finally get to my family's Christmas dinner and a time of being together with everyone.

Answer 5

We have a small business and have to zero out the books by the end of the year. My problems is all the procrastinator clients that need to do the same thing. When I am wanting to take time with family, these people are snapping their fingers and telling us to drop everything to help them when they could have prepared for this weeks ago. It's not like this doesn't happen EVERY year.

Answer 6

All is well with my family.

It will be our first Christmas without my mother.

My best friend is fighting with cancer.

A church friend had a stroke a few months ago, she had just lost her 32 year old son just a few months before.



Sometimes I feel guilty laughing when I know so many are crying.



All I could do is lift them up in prayer.

We live in an imperfect world, and we are part of it and, yes, we will suffer.



When the Jesus returns every tear will be wiped away, all sorrow will disappear and we will live with Christ for eternity.



May God Bless you and keep you close to Him where we can all find comfort.

Answer 7

/I get my happiness at this time by watching others enjoy each other.I see a neighbor receiving boxes from fed-ex and all happy and excited.I see her (she is 83) opening her cards that are from friends that she had in high school.I watch families visiting there families and smiles and hugs and laughter they share and although I do not experience this myself I am genuinely happy that they are God Bless you all and enjoy eachother as long as it is possible..



Edit :Just returned from the store and saw a man standing in the street mediem with a sign "please help me my electric was just turned off and we have a new baby in our home and no heat.Please I beg you" Its going to be very cold tonight.I so wanted to tell him bring your family to our home and be warm.But the last time my husband stopped to help someone the person pulled a knife on him.My heart just wanted to do something if I had the money I would have paid the bill and got it restored Please pray for him and others like him that God will open the hearts of some one who has the means to help and not only satisfy their needs but abundently bless them with a new job and warm clothing and food and shelter and everything that they want for .Bless the less fortunate with something that you can give and then your light will shine brighter and give glory to God.

Answer 8

Certainly not to make light of your situation which I know to be difficult, but I have a ladder tall enough to get on top of my house, a car that will start, and a wife who loves me. What more could I want?